Kids are still sick, I'm still sick but my
Alexander has a severe chest infection, possibly pneumonia. It's been less than 2 months since his last bout of pneumonia put him in hospital for a couple of days. Poor kid can't take a trick. He gets sick, without fail, every single school holidays. I really think his little body and mind are so exhausted by the end of the school term that in that last week of school, we see it start, and by the holidays, he's got something decent.
Sadly for this time (there were a LOT of tears, and not just from our boy), he had to miss out on an excursion (with vacation care, he is booked in 2 days a week because I'm not able to drive, I didn't want him stuck in the house for his entire holidays, bored. Seemed unfair) to circus school. He's looked forward to this day (ASD Mums, when I say "looked forward", you know I mean "Obsessed and talked of little else, right?" for over a month, ever since the program for VC was released.
Sammy has the same bug, but not as severe as his brother. He's still perky and happy and playing around. (Read: running circles around the rest of us and destroying the house while Alexander and I pathetically lay there, tissues in hand and say "No..Sammy. Stop. You can't eat all of the Oreos...ok...if you have them will you be quiet?)
He does have one issue. We noticed a couple of days ago that one of the top ribs on his right side is visibly protruding, you can even see it through his shirt. Joel noticed it about 3 days ago, after Sam's bath and called me over for a look. Now, Sam spends a LOT of time in his day coming to me, shirt up, saying "You can rub my back if you want" which is code for "I need some TLC Mama, so lets lay on your bed and you can just stroke my back or tummy and I can close my eyes and sigh a lot". It's kind of adorable, and something I'm clinging to while he still thinks Mama's back rubs are the best thing ever. My point is (yes, there was one), I'm rubbing his back or his chest every single day, at least 2 or 3 times a day. I think this was something I'd have noticed had it been there for a while. When you rub your hand over his chest now, you can't miss this massive lump (it's not on the other side).
He hasn't seemed to be guarding it and we haven't been aware of any accidents (except the one where he hit his head so freaking hard and had the biggest egg in the history of eggs and still has a bruise the size of my palm 10 days later). He hasn't complained. If you lightly brush over it, he doesn't really react, press it hard and he says "Please don't". So it must be a bit tender.
We all dragged ourselves into the Drs yesterday, to get Alexander on some antibiotics (he's been sick for a week and just gotten worse every day. Fevers through the roof and no sleep for the coughing, so it was time).
Well, when it was Sam's turn - all hell broke loose. He comes to the Drs with me often, every time I have an appointment, he comes. He enjoys trips to the Drs. He loves my GP (
We had a different Dr yesterday. Somone I generally refuse to see because he's
Sam sat in the corner right away. Watched Alexander get his chest, ears and temp taken, his throat checked. Nothing painful or scary (though noone in 4 years has successfully looked in Sam's throat. Literally. I dont' know if I've mentioned this on the blog before but every Dr we've seen comments on his sheer strength. I tried to explain to daycare once that it is physically impossible to force Samuel to do something he doesn't want to do. They scoff and say "You're the parent. Make him". And we smile sweetly and say ok. But when they tried to get him to stay in his chair or lay down for a sleep they discovered that it is, indeed impossible. Because to use the type of force necessary, you would have to actually injure him). It's hard to believe, but trust me on this one. There's only so far I'm prepared to go. In his first year and a bit he had 19 ear infections, and getting a look into this tiny little boys ears and throat was a nightmare every single time).
Sam's turn. We hoped he'd been fine. He hasn't needed a Dr anywhere near him in nearly 2 years. Fit as a fiddle. Nothing more than colds (except a mild dose of whooping cough, and the Dr gave up pretty fast and just said "Yeah, sounds like whooping cough. Lets just go with that. I kid you not). As soon as the Dr turned to him, he curled up in a ball in the corner of his office. Joel walked over to pick him up. He stayed in that ball, but the screaming started. Over the next 20 minutes, no bribe or cajoling worked. 3 of us trying to hold him still so the Dr could look at him while he screamed 'no no no no no' had me in tears. We are all bruised, him included. Dr got a quick look at the chest and said "I've not ever seen anything like that before".
So, we're off to an xray. Someone, please, please, please tell me how on earth we're going to get an X Ray done? If we couldn't manage 3 people holding him down for a quick temp/ear/throat check and a feel of his chest, how will we hold him still in a room with big, scary LOUD (Sam does not do loud, he is very like his brother there) machines? Long enough for them to get pics of his rib?
I'm actually asking. I'll take advice from anyone.

Anyhoo...it's Friday, so that means it's blog flogging day. I'm not really flogging this post. I'm flogging this one. It's my piece I wrote for Digital Parents Blogazine and they were lovely enough to publish it. I got some lovely (and one NOT so lovely) comments. Apparently though, from that one, I can't possibly know of what I speak. How would I know anything of depression????? ;-)


Oh Melissa, I do hope you find a solution as to how to successfully cajole your boy to take an X-ray. I do wish I had some tips, but I don't. My heart goes out to you and your family and do hope it's nothing serious. xx
ReplyDeleteShouldn't have to but when all else fails a bribe? lol! A special treat or trip of he is a good boy?
ReplyDeleteOkay, x-ray = sedation.
ReplyDeleteBut, if his rib is doing what Isaac's does, you can fix it yourself (which defeats the purpose of the x-ray, because then they won't find anything).
Email me if you like and I'll talk you through it. x
My daughter was intrigued that the huge camera was going to see past her skin, and she was going to get a look at her bones underneath. I'm sure it was reassuring that I was able to put on a gown and stand right beside her, holding her hand. If you get the right person, and they are feeling super generous they might give him a copy to show his friends. (?Maybe)
ReplyDeleteGoodluck!
I was going to suggest headphones and music, but I don't they'd let them in with the Xray... I don't know, maybe? If he'd let them in his ears anyway I suppose. What about visual distraction? Laptop and DVD? Or Oreos?
ReplyDeleteAnd oh my word, clearly brinkka2011 hasn't read your blog!! Idiot.
Sedation would definitely be the lesser of two evils. Why put you ALL through utter misery only to have the films stuffed up and have to repeat the whole painful restraining procesd over & over again & therefore to have to irradiate Samuel more than necessary???!
ReplyDeleteI am sorry everything sucks and blows right now Melissa.
ReplyDelete(hugs)
I would draw him some pictures and let him go before hand to see some chest x rays of bones. Tell him they are taking his picture ...does he have a favourite character ?
Promise him something or white lie and say it is like super mans xray vision or going on a mission .
You could even have. Go first and pretend , we did that a number times with kids when I was nursing. Make him a story board or Check the library for books.
They will let you go in with him so you can keep reassuring him you will be right there all the time... Wearing a lead apron.
My Sammy has to have a head MRI and at 5 yrs old they trial them on a mock MRI to see if they will cooperate with a real one without a General anesthetic first.
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