I've never been so hurt or angry in my life. After a lovely day with my family, I made the mistake of reaching out to my siblings. Forget the anger, be a bigger person and just tell them I'm thinking of them.
Backfired. With interest. They were vitriolic, cruel and they have an interesting memory of events.
I thought that reaching out was something that Mum would have been happy to see me do. She'd have been proud at the person to make the effort to reach out.
Screw it. They don't deserve to know. They don't deserve my forgiveness, my energy or my kindness. That was my final attempt. Gemma can go to hell for all I care. She and her pitiful excuse of a husband are not worth my time.
In sorry chick.
ReplyDeleteI've always been sister less, it aint so bad
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Family hurt is the worst kinda hurt and I am so sorry that you reached out and were treated so poorly. Speaks volumes about them not you darl.
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My mum passed in February of this year, her sister right up until the end caused problems, even took a holiday while mum was in hospital and came back the day before the funeral. Of course everything that has ever happened to them was my fault, even if i wasn't there or not. Some people are just so cruel and nasty and i have found that my life is my more calmer without my aunt in it. I miss mum each day, it doesn't make it any easier that we lost dad in May 2011. Mothers Day is going to be hard as its our first without Mum, 2 days later its a year since we lost dad. thoughts are with you.
ReplyDeleteI agree, family troubles are the most hurtful of all. It's not like it's easy just to move on. After many years of feeling anger and hurt at my Mum's sister's actions after her death, I am left feeling sorry for her. Wether she knows it or not, she has some significant unresolved issues that she was obviously (and maybe still is) unable to face at the time. I'm sure your siblings have their issues around your Mum that chew them up. Go gently on yourself Mel. And with time, maybe you cab 'forgive' them (not necessarily forget) and free yourself of the hurt and anguish.
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Your airing of personal family matters is hateful and vitriolic. You have no right to publish such private material. In fact, I have legal expertise in this area of public defamation, and not only are you guilty of this crime, your actions are also a form of harassment. No matter how you manipulate the situation, you are guilty of defamation and harassment Melissa. No matter what the situation, your actions are illegal. Had you committed these crimes against my clients, I would take you to court and win. I advise you to think twice before posting, as your sisters are entitled to now pursue this matter legally. I would personally encourage them to do so. I hope you learn from this Melissa.
ReplyDeleteAnon, first of all I don't believe for a moment you are an objective 'outsider'.
ReplyDeleteSecondly. At no time have I named the people involved. First names are given in some (and only some) cases.
Secondly, I am entitled to air my opinions, even in a public forum. In no way are they in any way damaged by these writings. They have no careers to protect, no impact may be had on them in the future from these writings.
Without naming the people involved, or leading people to their phone numbers, email addresses, facebook profiles, addresses etc it cannot in any way be construed as harassment.
Cute. Clever ploy. But seriously lacking in enough depth to give me pause. So. Advise away. It'd be interesting to see themselves defend themselves if I really were to start making accusations about what some of them really did..
We can not choose our family, it is an unfortunate fact of life. Time does not always heal all wounds, another unfortunate fact of life. Put the two of them together and sometimes you end up being hurt all over again.
ReplyDeleteI'm proud that you tried, I'm sorry that you didn't get the response you had hoped for. Know that there are many who care for you like a sister and a daughter.
Hugs from Perth xxx
So sorry to hear that your efforts didn't pan out like you hoped it would. Sometimes, it's just better to know that you have tried. And you did - with all your heart and all your might. Families can be so hurtful sometimes, I know that. That's probably why I'm so far away from them. You've got your friends Melissa. xx
ReplyDeleteAnon ... Seriously Wikipedia is not your friend but thanks for the giggle ... Perhaps your "experience" isn't sufficient enough to determine the difference between libel and defamation cause clearly you don't know your arse from your legal "jargon". Feel free to sue me though .. If you can determine the correct point of law provable that is.
ReplyDeleteMelissa, family can be the best of friends or the worst of times and I wish you all the best to someday resolve your issues with your siblings, sounds like they have deeper issues that need resolution.
so sorry you're going through this. stay strong.
ReplyDeleteoh, and that person saying its libel, harassment, etc etc is completely wrong. i dont want to get involved, that person is just completely incorrect and obviously not a lawyer. don't sweat her for a nanosecond... :)
Hi Melissa
ReplyDeleteJust came to your blog today and wanted to say hi. I think you write very well and are able to express yourself quite well. In regards to family issues, I also have a situation with one of my sisters and a brother which came to a head on the passing of our dear mother in 2010. Despite my trying neither wish to reconcile, so I have left the door open, should they ever wish to build bridges.
I wish you all the best.